Evil Decends

Oh what a day this will be! Before going into my little rant, let me give you some background so that you get my feelings.
As stated in a previous post, "Evil" is the name given to my man's ex-wife who is also the mother to our 2 oldest boys.
Over 2 years ago, after being together for 10 years and married for 8, Evil decided to start cheating on her husband and show little to no interest in her two children. Since she worked nights she would sleep all day leaving the 1 year old Dude to run the house by himself while the 7 year old Red was at school. When Red came home she interacted very little with him. By the time that Dragon came home from work she would wake to get a shower and act like she actually cared. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she made Red or Dragon bathe Dude.
One weekend Dragon decided to take Red and his two cousins camping along with another child. While they were gone Evil was reported as having a male "friend" over at the house. When confronted she claimed "It was just a friend from work, nothing more". When Dragon's birthday came around Evil actually did cook him dinner (biscuits and sausage gravy) and she invited a "friend" over. So now you have Dragon, Evil and this male co-worker all sitting down with Dragon thinking that Evil has just befriended this 18 year old kid and taken him under her wing for work only. This kid lived right across the street from their employment which was 5 minutes from Dragon and Evil's house. Evil has to be at work at 11pm. At 9:45 she tells Dragon she is going to take the kid home and go to work. Dragon became suspicious. He lets them leave, gives them some time and then  follows. What he finds sent his whole world spinning for sitting in the kids driveway in the car that he bought her is Evil making out with this kid. On Dragon's birthday of all days!!! Well he confronts her and then them both and the story goes from "we're just friends", to "I don't know that I want this life anymore", to "yeah, weve kissed some, but never intercourse", to "I don't want to be married to you anymore, I'm not happy". All in a 48 hour period. Dragon is now trying to fight for his marriage, so with her agreement that she will not make a decision yet, he gets a babysitter for the boys and takes her on an expensive, romantic night out including a fancy candlelit dinner, hotel and rose petals in a warm bath filled with scented bath oils. Massage, undivided attention and alone. The whole time she is distant and unreponsive. When they leave the next morning she tells him that she is done. It is over and she wants to be with the kid co-worker.
So now they still live in the same house, the kids really don't know what is going on, she is gone more now, and Dragon is a complete mess. To the point that he lost his job due to the emotional stress. Dragon and I had gone to school together and I was caught off guard when after being absent from our social networking site for some time, he comes back with a venemous comment "Well, the wife is out cheating again while I'm at home with the kids. At least she was honest about it this time." So we began to talk. From there we eventually got together.
Over time I have learned (sometimes from Evil's own mouth) that she had cheated several times throughout their relationship, thought very little of Dragon, stole money from her own kids piggy banks and bank accounts to fund trips to see the boyfriend and the hostility that she showed to her own child. Her family hated my presence at the start because they felt that I was what was keeping them from working things out. They fail to realize that once Evil made her decision that Dragon accepted it and started to work on moving on without her.
Once the divorce was final the boys custody was given to Dragon (they had been with him since the seperation anyway) and she was ordered to pay child support. Now while we had a place of our own she was sleeping on the couch with the boyfriend at his mother's house. He has no diploma, no GED, no job and no DL. (Both Evil and the boyfriend were fired from their job) She actually had the nerve to ask Dragon if when child support started coming in, if he would give it back to her.
After getting months behind for not working and then not turning in the paperwork when she got a job, things were finally  straightened out and child support payments were recieved. Dragon denied getting them when Evil asked because she still wants that money back. We don't need the money, but she owes the boys thousands of dollars that she stole from them. She found out that they payments were being put on a type of credit card and thought perhaps he threw it away by mistake. Now she believes that I threw it away. Lol.
It has been the thought that based on her words and actions that a few years later and now she realizes that she made a mistake. She would come to our house with the understanding that she would be visiting with the boys but then would spend the entire time talking to Dragon. She has my phone number, knows the boys are with me and Dragon is at work and will still call him to talk to the boys, then gets mad when he gets home too late for them to call her back. A few weeks ago she came to see the boys and didnt spend anymore than 5 minutes with them the entire 6 hours that she was here. As it is she doesn't see them but maybe every 4 weeks or so unless we tell her about something special going on. She spent the entire day at our house literally right under Dragon's feet. I started calling her his leach. It even made him feel strange. Not to mention that she had her shirt wrapped up to fit around her breasts only and had her shorts waist pulled down to the top of her pubic area. Then she found out that we were going on a swimming trip the next day and guess what? She went! And insisted that her boyfriend stay home! Well because of Prince, I couldn't swim and was left on the bank while she stuck to Dragon like glue and the kids played by themselves. About 2 weeks ago Dragon took the kids to the birthday party for the boys cousin. Me and Prince didn't go to avoid confrontations with Evil's family. Evil didn't show up til the last 2 hours and of course she was without her boyfriend and sought Dragon out. She was talking to him about how by now there would be about $2,200 in child support coming to him whenever he got the card. She asked that he put a few hundred in an account for each of the boys and give her $1,000 to get some things for the boys and she wanted to purchase tickets to a theme park for the boys. Here is the kicker: She wants her and Dragon to be the only ones to take them. No her boyfriend. No me, Prince or Diva. Her words were "It would do the boys good to see their family together". When Dragon and the kids went to leave she told him while crying that "she knows she messed up and she wants her family back and hopes that it isn't too late". The funny thing is without knowing any of this Red comes to me the next afternoon and wants to talk to me. He says he know what he wants for Christmas. I asked what that was. He says he wants a family picture. I asked who was the family. His reply was "You, Daddy, Me, Diva, Dude, and Prince. That way I can put it in my school binder and when I get sad I can look at my family and be happy again".
Now to present day! Since all of this has gone on and been said, I have not seen nor spoken to Evil. She is to be coming over this afternoon to spend some time with the boys and buy something from Red. My blood pressure is rising as that time gets closer together, because I can not promise that I will be have. She has not only crossed the line and disrepected me, my home and my family, but she is playing games and using the boys as pawns. I will not sit quietly and let her hurt these boys more if I can stop it. I have already told Dragon that if she is attatched to him instead of spending time with the boys that I will call her out on it and put her in her place. I am the woman of this house, I am Dragon's wife to be, I am Mommy to these kids! I kiss boo-boo's, praise good work, encourage imaginations, teach, feed, clothe, bathe, calm fears, transport, ensure health and safety. All she does is "I heard you did this.....". When Red made one B on his report card and the rest A's I wanted to slap her straight to Hades! Instead of telling him "Good Job!". She looks him straight in the face and says "You better pull that B up". ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I told him that I was proud of him and he did a great job and even let him pick dinner that night. Whatever he wanted and I made every single thing he asked for. She has this awful habit of being told that they need something and instead of getting it she will buy them more toys and junk that they don't need and will break in less than a day.
To say the least, today should be interesting since we have also planned the boys birthday parties and will be giving her the info today plus the fact that we have yet been face to face since the latest events. I think that she seriously believes that Dragon and I don't talk and that he doesn't share things with me. Won't she be surprised. Lol.
Time to start preparing, for the Evil decends in just over an hour!