Oh my goodness what a week! I've been silent because so much has been going on. Dude was sick for a week. Vomitting, diarhea, loss of appetite; the whole nine yards. We still don't know what was wrong with him. And I am still trying to catch up on laundry.
Dragon is out of state working for two weeks. Only 4 more days left until he comes home. Diva got sick. Prince finally got his formula changed and his body is starting to level out and he is at more peace now. That makes me a happy mommy. Red has been good for the most part, up until the last few days. Monday night he tells me that he finished all of his homework. Tuesday I get a note in his agenda from his teacher saying "no reading or spelling". I asked what she meant and he told me that he didnt' know. He later tells me that he didn't do his reading or spelling homework Monday night. He also is refusing to do his one and only chore: trash. So I've had to do it. He is also being lazy and not putting away his clean clothes. I wash and dry them, he can at least fold them and put them away. I used to fold them as well, but I got sick and tired of folding them and him unfolding them and just throwing them in his dresser. Then this morning, the thing that makes me so hot and makes my blood boil: I told the kids to get in the van while I was getting Prince into his carrier. Red got the keys and they loaded up. When I got in I noticed that I had $5 missing. After asking 5 times (I guess once for every dollar missing) Red finally tells me that he has it. When I asked why he said because he was going to buy something at the store with it. Oh I don't think so! You steal money from me and think that you are going to buy something at the store? Wrong! I asked him if he thought that I would not notice the money missing and he looked me right in the eye and said "NO". Not only that but I told him point blank to do the trash and put his clothes away and it still was not done. Well, I started making phone calls. First I called his daddy (on speaker phone so Red would know who I was calling) and left a message telling him what Red had done. Then I did the same thing with his mother (not that she really puts fear into him, but he is imbarassed that all these people know) and told her about his actions as of late (she may be paying him a visit this afternoon). Yesterday I got onto his Facebook and put as his status like it was from him "I lied last night when I said that I finished all of my homework. I lied this afternoon when I said that I turned in all of my homework. I have also failed to do my chore and I am too lazy to put my clean clothes away. So I am grounded and restricted for two weeks from my computer, Wii and movies." This morning I told him that I would update the status to read, "I am a liar. I am lazy. I am a thief." He didn't like that one too well. (No I haven't done that)
So onto other things.... I am still trying to get this house whipped before Dragon comes home. I got him a desk for his birthday (which is tomorrow) and rearranged the living room. We have so much floor space now! It's awesome! Laundry is a never ending pain in the royal rump. I also got a haircut yesterday and when I sent a picture to Dragon he said he had to stop a moment because it reminded him of me in High School. Lol. Score! Plus I'm going to dye my hair before he comes home. He will come home to a "new" house, a "new" woman, too bad he isn't coming home to "new" kids. Oh well, such is life.
Our house is really super old and some termites moved in before we did. We just had to re-do the bathroom floor because it was falling in. I was standing in front of my dresser this morning and all of a sudden my heel went through the floor! Well, the man isn't here and won't be here for another 4 days to fix this. I don't want my cool air to escape. I certainly don't want critters and things crawling in (especially since this is also the room where Prince stays most of the time). So, I needed to patch it somehow. Hmmmmm....... *Light bulb over head* I got a yard trash bag, you know the thick, heavy, black ones, and some camo duct tape that Dragon had on his dresser (that stuff is super thick and super strong. you have to cut it with scissors and only put it down once right where you want it) and I patched up the hole! Yay! Go me! Lol. I have officially gone Redneck on that one, but hey! it works!
Well I guess that it is time to get back to work. I'm thinking that I will be in here 1-2 times a week so as not to be a total bore. Sometimes life is just that, boring. And other times, it's like a roller coaster! Either way, you'll read about it if it happens. Have a good one!
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Tears
Well to start with my love is out of state working for the next 2 weeks, I have a very sick child (that we have no idea what is going on with) and I am shedding tears for something that is beyond my control, but bothers me just the same.
Dragon has worked overnight throughout the state during the week and came home on Friday, but never has he gone out of state and with plans to be gone this long. It's driving me nuts already and I still have 13 more days to go.
Dude is sick. He isn't wanting to eat, vomitting (only at night) and has watery stools that is just colored water. No fever and plays just fine, but is extremely tired and will just pass out with no warning dispite sleeping for the better part of the day and all night. His mom came and took him to the ER. Haven't heard anything yet, but it's only been about an hour and ER's are slow.
My tears, besides falling for Dude because I want him better and wish I knew how to do that, is for Prince. He is the youngest and last. The holidays are approaching and I can't help but to think of all of the people that the other children have that will buy for them and they can go spend some time with. Prince has no one outside of me and his daddy. My father lives in another state, but he doesn't even acknowledge Diva or me much less Prince. My siblings haven't said anything about him or even asked. No one claims him but me, his daddy and his siblings. I know that he has a lot of love flowing his way from us, but the other kids have so much more and it will be so hard to explain to him as he gets older why they can go stay with other people for weeks at a time in the summer and he is always stuck with mommy and daddy. I cry for him. I have since I was pregnant. Only my friends ask about him and show concern when something is amiss. My family doesn't even know that I'm alive much less the kids. Heck, sometimes I think that if I were to pass away or something that they would treat it like a brief rain storm. You know it came, can't remember what it did and don't bring it up in conversations. Wow. What an existance. Lol.
Well I have no idea how long they will be at the hospital but Ive got kids to get to school in the morning so I need to go get some shut eye no matter how little it may be.
See you later and have a great night.
Dragon has worked overnight throughout the state during the week and came home on Friday, but never has he gone out of state and with plans to be gone this long. It's driving me nuts already and I still have 13 more days to go.
Dude is sick. He isn't wanting to eat, vomitting (only at night) and has watery stools that is just colored water. No fever and plays just fine, but is extremely tired and will just pass out with no warning dispite sleeping for the better part of the day and all night. His mom came and took him to the ER. Haven't heard anything yet, but it's only been about an hour and ER's are slow.
My tears, besides falling for Dude because I want him better and wish I knew how to do that, is for Prince. He is the youngest and last. The holidays are approaching and I can't help but to think of all of the people that the other children have that will buy for them and they can go spend some time with. Prince has no one outside of me and his daddy. My father lives in another state, but he doesn't even acknowledge Diva or me much less Prince. My siblings haven't said anything about him or even asked. No one claims him but me, his daddy and his siblings. I know that he has a lot of love flowing his way from us, but the other kids have so much more and it will be so hard to explain to him as he gets older why they can go stay with other people for weeks at a time in the summer and he is always stuck with mommy and daddy. I cry for him. I have since I was pregnant. Only my friends ask about him and show concern when something is amiss. My family doesn't even know that I'm alive much less the kids. Heck, sometimes I think that if I were to pass away or something that they would treat it like a brief rain storm. You know it came, can't remember what it did and don't bring it up in conversations. Wow. What an existance. Lol.
Well I have no idea how long they will be at the hospital but Ive got kids to get to school in the morning so I need to go get some shut eye no matter how little it may be.
See you later and have a great night.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Evil Decends
Oh what a day this will be! Before going into my little rant, let me give you some background so that you get my feelings.
As stated in a previous post, "Evil" is the name given to my man's ex-wife who is also the mother to our 2 oldest boys.
Over 2 years ago, after being together for 10 years and married for 8, Evil decided to start cheating on her husband and show little to no interest in her two children. Since she worked nights she would sleep all day leaving the 1 year old Dude to run the house by himself while the 7 year old Red was at school. When Red came home she interacted very little with him. By the time that Dragon came home from work she would wake to get a shower and act like she actually cared. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she made Red or Dragon bathe Dude.
One weekend Dragon decided to take Red and his two cousins camping along with another child. While they were gone Evil was reported as having a male "friend" over at the house. When confronted she claimed "It was just a friend from work, nothing more". When Dragon's birthday came around Evil actually did cook him dinner (biscuits and sausage gravy) and she invited a "friend" over. So now you have Dragon, Evil and this male co-worker all sitting down with Dragon thinking that Evil has just befriended this 18 year old kid and taken him under her wing for work only. This kid lived right across the street from their employment which was 5 minutes from Dragon and Evil's house. Evil has to be at work at 11pm. At 9:45 she tells Dragon she is going to take the kid home and go to work. Dragon became suspicious. He lets them leave, gives them some time and then follows. What he finds sent his whole world spinning for sitting in the kids driveway in the car that he bought her is Evil making out with this kid. On Dragon's birthday of all days!!! Well he confronts her and then them both and the story goes from "we're just friends", to "I don't know that I want this life anymore", to "yeah, weve kissed some, but never intercourse", to "I don't want to be married to you anymore, I'm not happy". All in a 48 hour period. Dragon is now trying to fight for his marriage, so with her agreement that she will not make a decision yet, he gets a babysitter for the boys and takes her on an expensive, romantic night out including a fancy candlelit dinner, hotel and rose petals in a warm bath filled with scented bath oils. Massage, undivided attention and alone. The whole time she is distant and unreponsive. When they leave the next morning she tells him that she is done. It is over and she wants to be with the kid co-worker.
So now they still live in the same house, the kids really don't know what is going on, she is gone more now, and Dragon is a complete mess. To the point that he lost his job due to the emotional stress. Dragon and I had gone to school together and I was caught off guard when after being absent from our social networking site for some time, he comes back with a venemous comment "Well, the wife is out cheating again while I'm at home with the kids. At least she was honest about it this time." So we began to talk. From there we eventually got together.
Over time I have learned (sometimes from Evil's own mouth) that she had cheated several times throughout their relationship, thought very little of Dragon, stole money from her own kids piggy banks and bank accounts to fund trips to see the boyfriend and the hostility that she showed to her own child. Her family hated my presence at the start because they felt that I was what was keeping them from working things out. They fail to realize that once Evil made her decision that Dragon accepted it and started to work on moving on without her.
Once the divorce was final the boys custody was given to Dragon (they had been with him since the seperation anyway) and she was ordered to pay child support. Now while we had a place of our own she was sleeping on the couch with the boyfriend at his mother's house. He has no diploma, no GED, no job and no DL. (Both Evil and the boyfriend were fired from their job) She actually had the nerve to ask Dragon if when child support started coming in, if he would give it back to her.
After getting months behind for not working and then not turning in the paperwork when she got a job, things were finally straightened out and child support payments were recieved. Dragon denied getting them when Evil asked because she still wants that money back. We don't need the money, but she owes the boys thousands of dollars that she stole from them. She found out that they payments were being put on a type of credit card and thought perhaps he threw it away by mistake. Now she believes that I threw it away. Lol.
It has been the thought that based on her words and actions that a few years later and now she realizes that she made a mistake. She would come to our house with the understanding that she would be visiting with the boys but then would spend the entire time talking to Dragon. She has my phone number, knows the boys are with me and Dragon is at work and will still call him to talk to the boys, then gets mad when he gets home too late for them to call her back. A few weeks ago she came to see the boys and didnt spend anymore than 5 minutes with them the entire 6 hours that she was here. As it is she doesn't see them but maybe every 4 weeks or so unless we tell her about something special going on. She spent the entire day at our house literally right under Dragon's feet. I started calling her his leach. It even made him feel strange. Not to mention that she had her shirt wrapped up to fit around her breasts only and had her shorts waist pulled down to the top of her pubic area. Then she found out that we were going on a swimming trip the next day and guess what? She went! And insisted that her boyfriend stay home! Well because of Prince, I couldn't swim and was left on the bank while she stuck to Dragon like glue and the kids played by themselves. About 2 weeks ago Dragon took the kids to the birthday party for the boys cousin. Me and Prince didn't go to avoid confrontations with Evil's family. Evil didn't show up til the last 2 hours and of course she was without her boyfriend and sought Dragon out. She was talking to him about how by now there would be about $2,200 in child support coming to him whenever he got the card. She asked that he put a few hundred in an account for each of the boys and give her $1,000 to get some things for the boys and she wanted to purchase tickets to a theme park for the boys. Here is the kicker: She wants her and Dragon to be the only ones to take them. No her boyfriend. No me, Prince or Diva. Her words were "It would do the boys good to see their family together". When Dragon and the kids went to leave she told him while crying that "she knows she messed up and she wants her family back and hopes that it isn't too late". The funny thing is without knowing any of this Red comes to me the next afternoon and wants to talk to me. He says he know what he wants for Christmas. I asked what that was. He says he wants a family picture. I asked who was the family. His reply was "You, Daddy, Me, Diva, Dude, and Prince. That way I can put it in my school binder and when I get sad I can look at my family and be happy again".
Now to present day! Since all of this has gone on and been said, I have not seen nor spoken to Evil. She is to be coming over this afternoon to spend some time with the boys and buy something from Red. My blood pressure is rising as that time gets closer together, because I can not promise that I will be have. She has not only crossed the line and disrepected me, my home and my family, but she is playing games and using the boys as pawns. I will not sit quietly and let her hurt these boys more if I can stop it. I have already told Dragon that if she is attatched to him instead of spending time with the boys that I will call her out on it and put her in her place. I am the woman of this house, I am Dragon's wife to be, I am Mommy to these kids! I kiss boo-boo's, praise good work, encourage imaginations, teach, feed, clothe, bathe, calm fears, transport, ensure health and safety. All she does is "I heard you did this.....". When Red made one B on his report card and the rest A's I wanted to slap her straight to Hades! Instead of telling him "Good Job!". She looks him straight in the face and says "You better pull that B up". ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I told him that I was proud of him and he did a great job and even let him pick dinner that night. Whatever he wanted and I made every single thing he asked for. She has this awful habit of being told that they need something and instead of getting it she will buy them more toys and junk that they don't need and will break in less than a day.
To say the least, today should be interesting since we have also planned the boys birthday parties and will be giving her the info today plus the fact that we have yet been face to face since the latest events. I think that she seriously believes that Dragon and I don't talk and that he doesn't share things with me. Won't she be surprised. Lol.
Time to start preparing, for the Evil decends in just over an hour!
As stated in a previous post, "Evil" is the name given to my man's ex-wife who is also the mother to our 2 oldest boys.
Over 2 years ago, after being together for 10 years and married for 8, Evil decided to start cheating on her husband and show little to no interest in her two children. Since she worked nights she would sleep all day leaving the 1 year old Dude to run the house by himself while the 7 year old Red was at school. When Red came home she interacted very little with him. By the time that Dragon came home from work she would wake to get a shower and act like she actually cared. She didn't cook, she didn't clean, and she made Red or Dragon bathe Dude.
One weekend Dragon decided to take Red and his two cousins camping along with another child. While they were gone Evil was reported as having a male "friend" over at the house. When confronted she claimed "It was just a friend from work, nothing more". When Dragon's birthday came around Evil actually did cook him dinner (biscuits and sausage gravy) and she invited a "friend" over. So now you have Dragon, Evil and this male co-worker all sitting down with Dragon thinking that Evil has just befriended this 18 year old kid and taken him under her wing for work only. This kid lived right across the street from their employment which was 5 minutes from Dragon and Evil's house. Evil has to be at work at 11pm. At 9:45 she tells Dragon she is going to take the kid home and go to work. Dragon became suspicious. He lets them leave, gives them some time and then follows. What he finds sent his whole world spinning for sitting in the kids driveway in the car that he bought her is Evil making out with this kid. On Dragon's birthday of all days!!! Well he confronts her and then them both and the story goes from "we're just friends", to "I don't know that I want this life anymore", to "yeah, weve kissed some, but never intercourse", to "I don't want to be married to you anymore, I'm not happy". All in a 48 hour period. Dragon is now trying to fight for his marriage, so with her agreement that she will not make a decision yet, he gets a babysitter for the boys and takes her on an expensive, romantic night out including a fancy candlelit dinner, hotel and rose petals in a warm bath filled with scented bath oils. Massage, undivided attention and alone. The whole time she is distant and unreponsive. When they leave the next morning she tells him that she is done. It is over and she wants to be with the kid co-worker.
So now they still live in the same house, the kids really don't know what is going on, she is gone more now, and Dragon is a complete mess. To the point that he lost his job due to the emotional stress. Dragon and I had gone to school together and I was caught off guard when after being absent from our social networking site for some time, he comes back with a venemous comment "Well, the wife is out cheating again while I'm at home with the kids. At least she was honest about it this time." So we began to talk. From there we eventually got together.
Over time I have learned (sometimes from Evil's own mouth) that she had cheated several times throughout their relationship, thought very little of Dragon, stole money from her own kids piggy banks and bank accounts to fund trips to see the boyfriend and the hostility that she showed to her own child. Her family hated my presence at the start because they felt that I was what was keeping them from working things out. They fail to realize that once Evil made her decision that Dragon accepted it and started to work on moving on without her.
Once the divorce was final the boys custody was given to Dragon (they had been with him since the seperation anyway) and she was ordered to pay child support. Now while we had a place of our own she was sleeping on the couch with the boyfriend at his mother's house. He has no diploma, no GED, no job and no DL. (Both Evil and the boyfriend were fired from their job) She actually had the nerve to ask Dragon if when child support started coming in, if he would give it back to her.
After getting months behind for not working and then not turning in the paperwork when she got a job, things were finally straightened out and child support payments were recieved. Dragon denied getting them when Evil asked because she still wants that money back. We don't need the money, but she owes the boys thousands of dollars that she stole from them. She found out that they payments were being put on a type of credit card and thought perhaps he threw it away by mistake. Now she believes that I threw it away. Lol.
It has been the thought that based on her words and actions that a few years later and now she realizes that she made a mistake. She would come to our house with the understanding that she would be visiting with the boys but then would spend the entire time talking to Dragon. She has my phone number, knows the boys are with me and Dragon is at work and will still call him to talk to the boys, then gets mad when he gets home too late for them to call her back. A few weeks ago she came to see the boys and didnt spend anymore than 5 minutes with them the entire 6 hours that she was here. As it is she doesn't see them but maybe every 4 weeks or so unless we tell her about something special going on. She spent the entire day at our house literally right under Dragon's feet. I started calling her his leach. It even made him feel strange. Not to mention that she had her shirt wrapped up to fit around her breasts only and had her shorts waist pulled down to the top of her pubic area. Then she found out that we were going on a swimming trip the next day and guess what? She went! And insisted that her boyfriend stay home! Well because of Prince, I couldn't swim and was left on the bank while she stuck to Dragon like glue and the kids played by themselves. About 2 weeks ago Dragon took the kids to the birthday party for the boys cousin. Me and Prince didn't go to avoid confrontations with Evil's family. Evil didn't show up til the last 2 hours and of course she was without her boyfriend and sought Dragon out. She was talking to him about how by now there would be about $2,200 in child support coming to him whenever he got the card. She asked that he put a few hundred in an account for each of the boys and give her $1,000 to get some things for the boys and she wanted to purchase tickets to a theme park for the boys. Here is the kicker: She wants her and Dragon to be the only ones to take them. No her boyfriend. No me, Prince or Diva. Her words were "It would do the boys good to see their family together". When Dragon and the kids went to leave she told him while crying that "she knows she messed up and she wants her family back and hopes that it isn't too late". The funny thing is without knowing any of this Red comes to me the next afternoon and wants to talk to me. He says he know what he wants for Christmas. I asked what that was. He says he wants a family picture. I asked who was the family. His reply was "You, Daddy, Me, Diva, Dude, and Prince. That way I can put it in my school binder and when I get sad I can look at my family and be happy again".
Now to present day! Since all of this has gone on and been said, I have not seen nor spoken to Evil. She is to be coming over this afternoon to spend some time with the boys and buy something from Red. My blood pressure is rising as that time gets closer together, because I can not promise that I will be have. She has not only crossed the line and disrepected me, my home and my family, but she is playing games and using the boys as pawns. I will not sit quietly and let her hurt these boys more if I can stop it. I have already told Dragon that if she is attatched to him instead of spending time with the boys that I will call her out on it and put her in her place. I am the woman of this house, I am Dragon's wife to be, I am Mommy to these kids! I kiss boo-boo's, praise good work, encourage imaginations, teach, feed, clothe, bathe, calm fears, transport, ensure health and safety. All she does is "I heard you did this.....". When Red made one B on his report card and the rest A's I wanted to slap her straight to Hades! Instead of telling him "Good Job!". She looks him straight in the face and says "You better pull that B up". ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I told him that I was proud of him and he did a great job and even let him pick dinner that night. Whatever he wanted and I made every single thing he asked for. She has this awful habit of being told that they need something and instead of getting it she will buy them more toys and junk that they don't need and will break in less than a day.
To say the least, today should be interesting since we have also planned the boys birthday parties and will be giving her the info today plus the fact that we have yet been face to face since the latest events. I think that she seriously believes that Dragon and I don't talk and that he doesn't share things with me. Won't she be surprised. Lol.
Time to start preparing, for the Evil decends in just over an hour!
Saturday, October 1, 2011
To Sausage or Not To Sausage?
Decided to take the kids to McDonalds this morning to hit up the dollar menu. On the way I asked Red if he wanted a sausage biscuit or a sausage mcmuffin. He looks at me in all seriousness and asked "Which one has sausage? I want the one that has sausage." I told him that he couldn't have both only one and he said, "I know, and I want whichever one comes with sausage." That's when I realized that he wasn't pulling my leg. He was dead serious! OMG! I laughed sooooo hard!
As the mother to four kids, I am very well aware of the smells that they sometimes let loose. What has me totally thrown out of the loop is the smells that my 2 month old creates! I swear that Prince is just straight rotten! I mean, he was 2 weeks late and we had to issue him an eviction notice and even then we weren't sure that he would obey. But c'mon! Did going past ripe really start to make him rot from the inside out? That's how my whole house smells at times and this is within seconds of deposit. WOW!
We woke up this morning to some awesome cool temps. It felt so good that we turned off the ac's and opened up the house. Of course since the sun was out the kids wanted to jump into the pool. Nope, not that early. Now they are in it and having a great time. Soon though they will be getting out to gem mine. For anyone who has no idea what that is, you really should check it out! The kids love it! It's like finding the prize at the bottom of the cereal box but your prizes are worth so much more. We know a man that gets dirt shipped straight from the gem mines in North Carolina. He seperates what he gets into different size bags and containers and then you go on your own treasure hunts. He likes to salt it for us! We have found everything from ruby's to obsidion, citrine to opals, garnets to amethysts. Dragon knows how to cut them and shine them and now if teaching himself to wire wrap. It is a really cool hobby for our family. The kids even get excited when they find fools gold. That is the funniest.
Well, while they have some fun I guess I am going to finish up some laundry before Dragon has to pack up for his trip.
As the mother to four kids, I am very well aware of the smells that they sometimes let loose. What has me totally thrown out of the loop is the smells that my 2 month old creates! I swear that Prince is just straight rotten! I mean, he was 2 weeks late and we had to issue him an eviction notice and even then we weren't sure that he would obey. But c'mon! Did going past ripe really start to make him rot from the inside out? That's how my whole house smells at times and this is within seconds of deposit. WOW!
We woke up this morning to some awesome cool temps. It felt so good that we turned off the ac's and opened up the house. Of course since the sun was out the kids wanted to jump into the pool. Nope, not that early. Now they are in it and having a great time. Soon though they will be getting out to gem mine. For anyone who has no idea what that is, you really should check it out! The kids love it! It's like finding the prize at the bottom of the cereal box but your prizes are worth so much more. We know a man that gets dirt shipped straight from the gem mines in North Carolina. He seperates what he gets into different size bags and containers and then you go on your own treasure hunts. He likes to salt it for us! We have found everything from ruby's to obsidion, citrine to opals, garnets to amethysts. Dragon knows how to cut them and shine them and now if teaching himself to wire wrap. It is a really cool hobby for our family. The kids even get excited when they find fools gold. That is the funniest.
Well, while they have some fun I guess I am going to finish up some laundry before Dragon has to pack up for his trip.
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